Volume 50 Issue 8 - August 2012 : Reality Hub

Most of the time in varied circumstances the temptation to settle for less is almost inevitable. From tender ages to the grey hair and balding stages...we are prone to settling for less. Often times, a child would cry and bellyache when their mother leaves the house, only to have its tears immediately dry up at the sight of chocolate or a packet of chips! How low was that…do not get me wrong, I am totally not hating on kids. They know no better, easily coerced with almost anything. They do of course do it innocently mind you! Back to the topic. My point is that this is where it all begins…from the homestead… to the classroom…to the marriage bed! (Just saying)…. We are constantly bombarded with wells and wells of alternatives and crossroads, so if plan A does not work, then plan B will probably do. And that is not necessarily bad, we all know that circumstances sometimes become too

unfavorable and we resort to saying… ‘Something is better than nothing’… …But the problem comes when we get so used to lifestyle of compromise, where we hope for the best and when the best does not happen we settle for less than what we want... I am a woman, it pains me to the core, to see women get too comfortable in uncomfortable spaces all in the name of love.... caught up in dark alleys of self actualisation and debilitating low self worth which are dealt with in inappropriate ways… and sometimes land them in deep corners of loveless relationships. They settle for less because they are lavishly spoilt… they settle for less because this may only be the gateway for financial security. In so many other areas, we settle for less. Men and women alike, in desperation; seek not to go through the discomfort of failure, and so settle for what is easily accessible and that which will bring momentary joy …but sadly also prolonged brutal reality. In the workplace, in our social circles, in choosing life partners…. in the simple things like buying a new pair of shoes to ordering something from a restaurant…. we see chains of bondage…chains of inadequacy that we seem to be unhappy with yet we still seek after..I remember back in university a lot of the time students seemed comfortable with hoping to get 50 per cent just to avoid retaking the course… some never really strived for the best….but rather settled for less.

That is a wrong mentality! So often we become zoned in a world of impossibilities’ where we only expect the least, possibly to not have to go through the ‘trouble’ of hoping for the better. And we get so comfortable in that space that is beneath ourselves, and we become so exhausted that we forget to put in effort in everything we do… sometimes settling for less may seem the only option, and sometimes we think the less is best…well…to be frank, sometimes…and I means just a small fraction of the time, the only justification, and the only other acceptable version of settling for less that I may approve of is ....when you start small. see here you just believe that there’s a longer route to achieving the best, instead of remaining stagnant at the ocean shore and not crossing to the other side. Starting small, like a trampoline, can propel you to greater heights...BUT remember, when starting small you need to put pride aside, gird yourself up with humility and place your gaze on the furthest star. Lots of people shun humble beginnings…that should not be the case. Moving on…if you decide to follow the ‘something is better than nothing’ approach…. that is okay, I am sure you mean well…but be careful to not in the process deny yourself of the very best of life. Do your best…leave God to do the rest and expect the best! In your work, your social life, your spiritual life, your relationships…do not be tempted to compromise your values in the process, your principles your integrity should not be cast out the window. They should follow you like a shadow!

Believe me, nothing is worth losing those virtues over! This is your future mind you, you alone are accountable for your own life…., do not settle for less if it compromises your health, your future…your happiness. Remember we are supposed to get the best out of everything, and everything that denies you that privilege should not be a part of your life. I did warn you in the previous edition of this column that I may be very truthful…and yes we all know that the truth hurts, especially if we have been avoiding it for too long… See the main goal here is to get the best out of life like I said…all of us…no one is left out. So it is up to you. the Bible says that ‘He came that we might have life, and have it more abundantly….’ now put that at the back of your head and at the forefront of your every step…we all want to say goodbye to this world one day having done something right. We might not have achieved that dream of having children, or getting married or even lived that dream of being a musician or a successful businessman but we can all go with a smile on our faces and a content heart knowing that we tried…we never settled for less…. we aimed for the best…and though having not always succeeded but we know we tried. …so go on…the very best awaits you...do not be shy…and don’t settle for less!

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