Volume 65 December 2026-January 2026 : Reality Hub

The notion ‘do as I say and not as I do`` has become a tagline for irresponsible parents. Children learn through imitation and what you tell a child to do…if you do it they will copy such behaviour.

On the contrary if you tell a child to stop doing something which you do then there is a mismatch right there. So parents, like a tree that grows from  a seed, your children will be a shining or dim example of who you are…it`s your choice really to grow your seed!! We`ve all been there... (In the past) but now we are here, (in the present) because a mother, father or guardian chose to take responsibility for our lives, had they not where would you be?

They chose to grow you as their seed, planted and watered you to a ripe age, where you no longer had to ask about the ‘birds and the bees` for you are now living in reality and the world stands before you and life beckons you to live it!

It is so easy to bring a young one into this world, but most often a lot of people fail to groom them into the best people they can be. If you have a plant, I suggest that when you sow a seed, start to nurture it from a young age, when it blossoms into a flower, it will be a very beautiful one for the world to see and marvel at.

I implore every mother and father or potential parent/guardian out there to be the best you can be...and grow your seed and see it flourish into a flower! Failure to do so, weeds will attack your seed and you will ultimately have a withered, bruised and stagnant flower.

tradition has sadly woven a sense of negligence in the minds of parents, where they feel providing for their kids is valued only at a monetary level...and so neglect the other important elements required for growing their seed (children) also the mentality that certain roles are specific to either the male or female parent counterpart have vastly cramped growth. Before you can proudly wear the motherhood or fatherhood badge, you need to start by qualifying... 

Social, Mental, Psychological, Economic, Spiritual elements are paramount in any individuals growth, but sadly these aspects of our life are usually not exhausted to their full potential, that is why one may have an excess of the other and fall short of another. In order to be the best parent you can ever be, you need to weigh these aspects and provide for all of them in a child`s life.

Not falling short of any lest your seed stagnate in life. Parents have the mistake of shifting the blame of juvenile adolescents on the children themselves, and forget to look back on their own shortcomings.

Children need a social element to their lives. Making sure your child mingles with the right crowd is never easy, but it`s never right to deny a child a social circle, if you have doubts about it, communication is the best tool, talk to children and find out what they need and want. Don`t scold them for making stupid decisions in life...teach them and lead them in the right path. 

The friends a child will chose is a clear reflection of how their sense of self has been groomed. Instil in a child virtues that a child will ultimately look out for in his/her social circle to compliment his/her own. But if you deny a child of such he/she will look for it elsewhere even in the wrong crowds! 

A Childs heart need not only pump life sustaining liquid, it also needs to fertilized and pruned with love, (express it) respect (teach and show it), discipline and appreciation. Children learn through emulation, so they will copy the bad if you show them the bad and vice versa. A hug and kiss once in a while coupled with an “I love you” every evening and morning goes an extra mile and guarantees you a stable child!

The mind is very powerful...it registers every blame, curse, and praise, so watch what you say to your children. Sometimes after a bad day we lash out at children and utter the most hurtful things, or when a child does wrong or performs badly at school we are quick to judge and not look at the underlying problem. That`s a big mistake!

The spirit is almost always neglected, that is why children go through trials that are beyond them and they crumble and have nervous break downs, suicidal tendencies, and depressive moments and have nowhere to turn to. It`s not always easy for a child to tell a parent what they go through.

The spirit needs to be fed with spiritual food; an acquaintance with Divinity needs to be established. Without God and when all the worldly solutions deny you, you are rendered dead... teach your children to pray, and lead them in the right paths that they may know God. God has placed children in our lives, whether biological or not for a purpose beyond what we could imagine. Let children not only be just ‘little` people who are noisy and have a lot of energy, may they be the future.

Allow them to grow, don`t render them physically, emotionally and spiritually stagnant. You carry an obligation to raise a future generation which will bring to light all the vices and virtues you instilled to the detriment or to the benefit of society. Just as you shine, let you children shine. Just as you grow, allow them grow. Parents…grow your seed. ENDS

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