Volume 65 December 2026-January 2026 : Reality Hub

 

Donkeys are often criticized for their obstinate or simply put stubborn nature.

If a donkey does not want to move faster than you need it to when crossing the road you cannot make it. No excessive honking or screaming can possibly make it move.

It`s only in the bible that a Donkey decided it wasn`t going to be moved or pushed into a path when danger was looming so it grew a voice and spoke out.

Unfortunately that was the last time a Donkey spoke, in these times a Donkey will just remain still and that nonverbal communication speaks volumes to its non-negotiable stance.  If you haven`t the time and your patience runs out then you will have to go around it- Talk about having a non- negotiable stance!!  

Non-negotiables come into play in many aspects of our lives.

Some are inherent and some we pick up as we go along. Have you ever said something, or had a personal conviction about something such that no one in the world could every sway you in a different direction?

No amount of convincing could possibly cause you to change your mind about the dress you want, the job you will settle for, the person you love or do not love. Do you ever make decisions, possibly lifelong decisions or determinations, and you feel you`ve found firm ground in them and have set it in your mind that it is a “non-negotiable” ?

Meaning you`ve even set it in your heart that come-what-may, no south wind can ever uproot you from your standing ground? It`s like having a` no go area`. We have a lot of things in our ‘stash` and often times our hearts are always the first to tell us to not compromise on certain things and very often we stick to that. sometimes though....and  somehow, somewhere along the way you sadly stagger at circumstances or someone or other people`s judgement...And well ultimately you “change your mind” and suddenly what was “not negotiable” turns into “a negotiable” all because someone said something? Or everyone is doing it differently. Yeah, I`m sure we`ve all had our fair share of that! Allow me to clarify. 

In our relationships, personal lives, marriages, family, social circles, academics, our individual lives etc there are boundaries that we just do not cross, no matter what and we know it!

There are unwritten no go areas, No one has to sit down and read them out to us, most aren`t even documented! We just know some things are not negotiable! The supposed “girl-code” for example, every woman knows they just cannot under any circumstances do anything with someone her friend either liked, or dated, or even married at any point! It`s strictly not negotiable!

For those who are staunch traditionalists, they know that when a female enters a ‘kgotla` they have to be clad with a dress or skirt, there is simply no way around it. Firm believers in Christianity are unwavering in their no sex before marriage conviction, its non- negotiable!  Say you value academic honestly, and then no matter how hard an assignment or exam paper is you know you can never succumb to the temptation of plagiarism, cheating or any other form of academic dishonesty, a lot of people do it, yes, but remember you are not “everybody”.

An ageless example that I know we can all relate to is that of Jesus` crucifixion. He surely had a “non-negotiable” stance, for he remained unshaken till the point of death.

Had he feared the cross and decided otherwise, he could have “negotiated” with those who persecuted him. Another example is that of marriage. Say a couple seals their vows with a “till death do us part” oath; this is a decree that should not be negotiated or compromised. People however choose to give in to temptations of infidelity which inevitably lead to extra-marital affairs which are negotiated! Moreover people justify such behaviour based on circumstances...honestly! I mean yes, most believe the institution of marriage is on the verge of demise, but don`t you want to be the minority who believe otherwise and strive to not negotiate with your stance? Why do we compromise on such! This is a non-negotiable! 

The human race has been given free will, and a level of responsibility to go. When we talk about non negotiables we are simply referring to a stance which one takes as to say COME WHAT MAY I WILL NOT BE MOVED....!

Every individual has what I shall call a set of individual “commandments”. Where you know you can never kill a human being, steal no matter how dire your need is, or cheat in any relationship even when it gets hard, or sabotage anyone`s life just to get to the top of the corporate ladder, or shed innocent blood!  Or do anything that is contrary to what you as an individual have been grounded in...

No matter what!  If you have it in you to not do something and you by all means stick to that no matter what the circumstances are, and you will never go back on what you believe in- I applaud you, you deserve a standing ovation. So many people have stumbled and fell at the world and its stipulated systems, but you were self-governed and knew better!

For those who are victims of negotiable stances, I believe this is the time to stand up for what you believe in and adopt non-negotiable stances in your life.

Don`t allow anyone to bring you down and make you feel as If what you believe in is not worthy! Who are they to determine what is and what isn`t? Be your own mentor and be a victorious mentor! Don`t settle for a life of negotiable stances, because when the north wind blows, you will be de-rooted and swayed to and fro.

This life can be so beautiful if you want it to be, it`s up to you to reorganize your response to whatever life throws at you. Do not compromise on your values; do not let anyone dictate to you how you should do life.  Let walking with God and stepping into His plan for your life be a non-negotiable stance. With that you are sure to do life well and experience life in the most rewarding possible way. 

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