We are all born possessing love. Therefore, love is not something learnt or acquired. It is innate, which means that all human beings, regardless of their social, political or economic status, let alone age, have the ability to love and be loved. 

Again my belief is that in as much as love is ineffable, it cannot be expressed in terms of what many prefer to call true love.

To me, it’s either you love someone or you do not love them. There is nothing called true love.

Love is just love, period. I mean if it is not love, it is something else, may be hate, pretence or lack thereof.

Trying to classify love, to me, is an effort in vain. 

This is because love is always true. Where it exists it is not hard to see or manifest. Love does not pretend. People pretend to love.

That is, no matter how much one can pretend to love you, if they have their attention focused somewhere else, their actions will always tell.

This brings me to another scenario that love does not die. 

I mean, people just shift their attention. Therefore, it does not mean that when someone does not love you their ability to love and be loved is dead.

No! It is just that they have shifted their attention towards someone else.

Therefore, love does not die because it is something we do not have control over. We can only shift attention and direct it somewhere else. 

In essence love is life in itself because when you stop loving you die. Otherwise how would you be able to exist without love?

The ability to love means you can relate well with your social environment and ultimately the physical which connects you to the spiritual world through the power of imagination.

But in all these, love is patient. It does not lose hope and where it is meant to be, it will be.

There is a difference between being in a relationship and being in love. Also, there is a difference between being infatuated with each other and being in love.

But in all these, there is an element of love. Relationships exist because of love. Infatuation is triggered by love as well.

Consequently, when you stop loving you cease to exist. Wars and other social ills are caused by people who cease to love because such dislocates them from both the social and physical environment.

In one of our pages we carry a story about an elderly couple who have shown us that theirs has not been and continues not to be just a relationship but a love for each other. While distance and time have kept them apart, they never gave up on each other.

Their love was patient.

Their love did not pretend and above all, it did not die. Let me not spoil your appetite. Read all about it to know what happened next and how they did it.

Again, as we celebrate Valentine’s, take a leaf from this couple to know what love is.

Meanwhile, as I promised last month, we want to make Kutlwano the best magazine ever.

This month we have introduced a new column on career development. The column aims to be a fountain of wisdom for those who are still not sure of what career path to follow. Make use of it to follow and realise your dreams.

After everything, make February a month to exude love.

Turn each day into Valentine’s not just the 14th. Thank you. Until we meet again next month, take care!  ENDS